Life Of A Single Father

Life Of A Single Father

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Eleanor Ainge Roy
By Eleanor Ainge Roy
Life Of A Single Father

You must have heard stories of single mothers successfully raising their respective kids. These ladies must be appreciated for the hard work they do for raising their kids. But hardly you have heard of a single father raising a baby.

Hello to all the readers. I am John, an IT expert by profession living in New York City. About a year and a half back a very unfortunate thing happened to our family. My beloved wife died in an accident in May 2018, leaving me and our daughter all alone. It was like a whole cloud got burst on me. I didn’t know how to cope up with the situation. I was even more worried about the baby. Since then I have been raising her all alone. And let me tell you honestly, my beautiful daughter is very happy. But one thing is very certain that initially, it was not at all easy for me to balance this with my professional life. Let me take you on my journey.

The Initial Weeks

As I mentioned above, the initial few days were quite difficult for me to deal with this thing. The biggest fear in my mind was whether I could fulfill my wife’s place in my daughter’s life or not. But now I feel that so far I have been able to accomplish this target. My daughter was just 2 months old when this tragedy happened to us. Thanks to friends and other relatives who helped me with different things. The best thing they did was they never demotivated me.

The Gradual Progression

As time progressed and I explored different things of parenting, soon I learned different things of parenting. One of the biggest problems which I found was the problem of feeding the baby. There is a battle over baby formula going on between Similac and Enfamil. In this battle of the best baby formula, I could not choose what was right for the baby. One product was providing different nutrients and the other one different. I bought both of them and started giving both of them alternatively. Fortunately, my baby didn't bother me regarding the food. She enjoyed her meals and she enjoys it even today.

Another challenge was to cope up with the sleep deprivation. The baby used to get up anytime. And I had to get up to calm her down and make her comfortable. Moreover, I was working from home for the first two months and handling both work and the baby was very tiring and hectic. But gradually I got used to it and lately, I didn’t have any problem regarding this.

Managing The Work

Another very significant thing that I found very difficult was to manage was my job. Luckily, my boss was kind enough to allow me to work from home for two months. Often looking after the baby is tiring but at the same time, you can’t see your baby crying. I used to get up early in the morning and I would do some work for 2-3 hours. By the time the baby used to get up, I would do all the other things like preparing breakfast and normal cleaning and dusting. Then I used to get her up, feed her and make her bath. Gradually, I became more efficient. One thing that I learned was that if you do things regularly, then you eventually will learn how to do things properly.

After 2 months I rejoined the office and this is the time when my real test as a father started. A friend of mine suggested me to move into a new house that was near to my office. Also, I hired a part-time baby sitter who could take care of the baby in my absence. Now I have decided to continue this schedule till the baby starts going to school. Later I’ll admit her to a daycare facility.

Ending With Some Tips

There is nothing in this world that is small or big. Parenthood is perhaps the most beautiful phase of my life and honestly speaking, I am enjoying this phase of my life. Of course, sometimes I wish my wife was here but I have to be a realist and accept the fact that she is never gonna come back. Spending time with my beautiful daughter has made me explore a different side of me which I never knew I had.

Also, to all the parents out there, especially the fathers, there is a stereotype that fathers can’t take care of their babies better than the mothers. To this, I can only say that I don’t know about the better part but fathers can take care of their babies equally. The whole idea behind writing my story was to encourage the young fathers who either get demotivated or are the victim of this stereotypical world. Just give it some time. Happy Parenting! Happy Fatherhood!

Eleanor Ainge Roy

Eleanor Ainge Roy
Eleanor Ainge Roy is a journalist based in Dunedin, New Zealand.